My wife was recently rereading a good book called Victory Over the Darkness, by Neil T. Anderson. I read this book a couple of years ago and really liked it.
One of the best concepts that I remember from this book was Anderson's comparison of godly goals to godly desires.
He says that a godly goal should be something that is God-honoring that we can achieve, and no amount of interference can keep from happening. For instance, a goal for me might be, "I will learn to preach concise 20-minute sermons." Or, "My goal is to be the best pastor/father I can be."
On the other hand, a godly desire is something that is God-honoring but that involves a number of factors outside of our control coming together for it to be achieved. For example, a godly desire could be, "I desire for my church to grow by 100 in the next five years." Or, "I desire to start a contemporary worship service in the next year."
He would say we need to set godly goals that we can achieve, which are not dependent on external forces, because:
1) Blocked goals result in ANGER.
2) Impossible goals result in DEPRESSION.
3) Uncertain goals result in ANXIETY.
I can relate to these feelings coming from unhealthy goal-setting in my own life. I'm trying to focus more on godly goals.