But the church's growth also took a professional and personal toll on Hybels, who had married his longtime sweetheart in 1974 and quickly had children.It seems that megachurches are usually created by a certain superdriven personality type, which can drive staff to the point of exhaustion and make family members feel neglected. I wrestle with evaulating balance and motives. What kind of balance does God call us to have between priorities of ministry and family?
By 1990 he felt he had to recharge. Piloting a borrowed sailboat, he renewed a lifelong love of the water and spent more of his summers reconnecting with his family and with God.
In 1994 about a quarter of the church's staff and a third of the lay leadership left, saying they were burned out by the church's fast pace and lack of personal touch. The exodus inspired Hybels to further examine his management style and his expectations.
John Wesley did not find marriage as a worthy preoccuation. When he got married, he made this statement:
"I cannot understand how a Methodist preacher can answer it to God to preach one sermon or travel one day less in married than in a single state."
And what about motives? Are most superdriven pastors trying to build the kingdom of God or their own empire? This is easy to think about since the church I pastor is not experiencing any kind of explosive growth. It may be that God uses all of our mixed bag of messed up motives and balance for his glory, even though it is often less than 100% pure.
I question if megachurches would even exist if these superdriven pastors were actually living balanced Christ-centered lifestyles. And I in no way deny the amazing amount of good that they have done.