"If you want to change your attitudes, start with a change in behavior. In other words, begin to act the part, as well as you can, of the person you would rather be, the person you most want to become. Gradually, the old, fearful person will fade away."
- Psychiatrist William Glasser
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
"The winner's edge is not in a gifted birth, a high IQ, or in a talent. The winner's edge is all in the attitude, not the aptitude. Attitude is the criterion for sucess. But you can't buy an attitude for a million dollars. Attitudes are not for sale."
- Dennis Waitley, The Winner's Edge
"One of the things I've learned is that life often gives you whatever you expect from it. If you expect bad things, those are what you get. It you expect good things, you often receive them. I don't know why it works that way, but it does. If you don't believe me, try it out. Give yourself thirty days in which you expect the best of everything: the best parking place, the best table in the restaurant, the best interaction with clients, the best treatment from service people. You'll be surprised by what you encounter, especially if you give your very best to others in every situation as well."
- John Maxwell (The Difference Maker, p.36)
Monday, July 30, 2007
In chapter four, he says "How to Choose the Right Track" with our attitude is to:
1) Take Responsibility for Your Attitude.
2) Evaluate Your Present Attitude.
- Identify problem feelings about yourself.
- Identify problem feelings related to others.
- Identify problem thinking.
3) Develop the Desire to Change.
4) Change Your Attitude by Changing Your Thoughts.
- Major Premise: We can control our thoughts.
- Minor Premise: Our feelings come from our thoughts.
- Therefore: We can control our feelings by changing the way we think.
5) Develop Good Habits.
6) Manage Your Attitude Daily.
Sunday, July 29, 2007
Saturday, July 28, 2007
Thursday, July 26, 2007
"Pray a great deal and always let your prayer take the form of thanksgiving on the assumption that God is giving you great and wonderful things; for if you think He is, He surely is. God will not give you any greater blessing than you can believe in. He wants to give you great things, but even He cannot make you take anything greater than you are equipped by faith to receive. 'According to your faith be it unto you' (Matthew 9:29)"
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
Commitment is the Key
“Until I am committed there is a hesitancy, the chance to draw back. But the moment I definitely commit myself then God moves also and a whole stream of events begin to erupt. All manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings, persons and material assistance that I could have never dreamed would come my way begin to flow toward me… the moment I make a commitment.”
Friday, July 20, 2007
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
"He who would accomplish little must sacrifice little; he who would achieve much must sacrifice much; he who would attain highly must sacrifice greatly." (p.55)
"The dreamers are the saviors of the world. As a visible world is sustainable by the invisible, so men, through all their trials and sins and sordid vocations, are nourished by the beautiful visions of their solitary dreamers. Humanity cannot forget its dreamers; it cannot let their ideals fade and die; it lives in them; it knows them as the realities which it shall one day see and know." (p.59)
Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become. Your Vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your Ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil.
The greatest achievement was at first and for a time a dream. The oak sleeps in the acorn; the bird waits in the egg; and in the highest vision of the soul a waking angel stirs. Dreams are the seedlings of realities.
Your circumstances may be uncongenial, but they shall not long remain so if you but perceive an Ideal and strive to reach it. You cannot travel within and stand still without. (p.61)
Monday, July 16, 2007
To put away aimlessness and weakness, and to begin to think with purpose, is to enter the ranks of those strong ones who only recognize failure as one of the pathways to attainment; who make all conditions serve them, and who think strongly, attempt fearlessly, and accomplish masterfully.
Having conceived of his purpose, a man should mentally mark out a straight pathway to its achievement, looking neither to the right nor the left. Doubts and fears should be rigorously excluded; they are disintegrating elements which break up the straight line of effort, rendering it crooked, ineffectual, useless. Thoughts of doubt and fear never accomplish anything, and never can. They always lead to failure. Purpose, energy, power to do, and all strong thoughts cease when doubt and fear creep in.
The will to do springs from the knowledge that we can do. Doubt and fear are the great enemies of knowledge, and he who encourages them, who does not slay them, thwarts himself at every step.
He who has conquered doubt and fear has conquered failure. His every thought is allied with power, and all difficulties are bravely met and wisely overcome. His purposes are seasonably planted, and they bloom and bring forth fruit which does not fall prematurely to the ground. (pp.44-45).
Sunday, July 15, 2007
A particular train of thought persisted in, be it good or bad, cannot fail to produce its results on the character and circumstances. A man cannot directly choose his circumstances, but he can choose his thoughts, and so indirectly, yet surely, shape his circumstances (p.29).
Saturday, July 14, 2007
Leaders lead; pick up the phone and make contact.
Followers listen; wait for the phone to ring.
Leaders spend time planning; anticipate problems.
Followers spend time living day-to-day reacting to problems.
Leaders invest time with people.
Followers spend time with people.
Leaders fill the calendar by priorities.
Followers fill the calendar by requests.
Friday, July 13, 2007
Thanks to everyone in Pontiac for the beautiful send off last week. We will miss you all and thank God that when you befriend a fellow believer in Christ, the relationship is eternal.
My new church's website is http://www.mascoutah-bethelumc.org/.
P.S. I got word this morning that the Pontiac FUMC Softball Team won last night! Way to go guys!
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
and what lies before us
are tiny matters compared to
what lies within us."
-Oliver Wendell Holmes
Monday, July 09, 2007
Sunday, July 08, 2007
Saturday, July 07, 2007
-Viktor E. Frankl
When you become an empowerer, you work with and through people, but you do much more. You enable others to readh the highest levels in their personal and professional development. Simply defined, empowering is giving your influence to the for the purpose of personal and organizational growth. It's sharing yourself - your influence, position, power, and opportunities - with others for the purpose of investing in their lives so that they can function at their best. It's seeing people's potential, and showing them that you believe in them completely (p.77).He gives these questions to help evaluate our own attitude toward empowering others:
1. Do I believe in people and feel that they are my organization's most appreciable asset?Further, Maxwell explains,
2. Do I believe that empowering others can accomplish more than individual achievement?
3. Do I actively search for potential leaders to empower?
4. Would I be willing to raise others to a level higher than my own level of leadership?
5. Would I be willing to invest time developing people who have leadership potential?
6. Would I be willing to let others get credit for what I taught them?
7. Do I allow others freedom of personality and process, or do I have to be in control?
8. Would I be willing to publicly give my authority and influence to potential leaders?
9. Would I be willing to let others work me out of a job?
10. Would I be willing to hand the leadership baton to the people I empower and truly root for them?
If your answer is no to more than a couple of these questions, you may need an attitude adjustment. You need to believe in others enough to give them all you can and in yourself enough to know that it won't hurt you. Just remember that as long as you continue to grow and develop yourself, you'll always have something to give, and you won't need to worry about being displaced. (pp.82-83)
Author and professional speaker Danny Cox advised, "The important thing to remember is that if you don't have the inspired enthusiasm that is contagious - whatever you do have is also contagious." People can sense your underlying attitude no matter what you say or do. If you have an expectation for your people to be successful, they will know it...In conclustion, Maxwell encourages us to empower, saying,
Once people recognize and understand that you genuinely want to see them succeed and are committed to helping them, they will begin to believe that they can accomplish what you give them to do. (p.85)
If you head up any kind of organization - a business, club, church, or family - learning to empower others is one of the most important things you'll ever do as its leader. Empowerment has an incredibly high return. It not only helps the individuals you raise up by making them more confident, energetic, and productive, but it also has the ability to improve your life, give you additional freedom, and promote the growth and health of your organization. (p.88)Now I'm going back to bed.
Friday, July 06, 2007
He shares THE VALUE OF LISTENING, saying...
- LISTENING SHOWS RESPECT
- LISTENING BUILDS RELATIONSHIPS
- LISTENING INCREASES KNOWLEDGE
- LISTENING GENERATES IDEAS
- LISTENING BUILDS LOYALTY
- LISTENING IS A GREAT WAY TO HELP OTHERS AND YOURSELF
He then gives some helpful tips on HOW TO DEVELOP LISTENING SKILLS
1. LOOK AT THE SPEAKER
2. DON'T INTERRUPT
3. FOCUS ON UNDERSTANDING
4. DETERMINE THE NEED AT THE MOMENT
5. CHECK YOUR EMOTIONS
6. SUSPEND YOUR JUDGMENT
7. SUM UP AT MAJOR INTERVALS
8. ASK QUESTIONS FOR CLARITY
9. ALWAYS MAKE LISTENING YOUR PRIORITY
Thursday, July 05, 2007
Wednesday, July 04, 2007
Twenty percent of your priorities will give you 80 percent of your production, IF you spend your time, energy, money, and personnel on the top 20 percent of your priorities...
Every leader need to understand the Pareto Principle in the area of people oversight and leadership. For example, 20 percent of the people in the organization will be responsible for 80 percent of the company's success. The following strategy will enable a leader to increase the productivity of an organization.
1. Determine which people are the top 20 percent producers.
2. Spend 80 percent of your "people time" with the top 20 percent.
3. Spend 80 percent of your personal development dollars on the top 20 percent.
4. Determine what 20 percent of the work gives 80 percent of the return and train an assistant to do the 80 percent less-effective work. this "frees up" the producer to do what he/she does best.
5. Ask the top 20 percent to do on-the-job training for he next 20 percent.
(Leadership 101, pp.51-52)
1) Be Proactive.
2) Begin with the End in Mind.
3) Put First Things First.
4) Think Win/Win.
5) Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood.
7) Sharpen the Saw.
Tuesday, July 03, 2007
- Make the goals appropriate. (Keep the intended job in mind, as well as the larger organizational goal.)
- Make the goals measurable.
- Clearly state the goal. ("When goals have no clear focus, neither will the actions of the people trying to achieve them.")
- Make the goals require a stretch. ("When goals don't require a stretch, the people achieving them won't grow.")
- Put the goals in writing. ("A study of a Yale University graduating class showed that the small percentage of graduates who had written down their goals accomplished more than all of the other other graduates combined. Putting goals in writing works.)
- Brian Dyson, CEO Coca Cola Enterprises
1) We add value to others when we truly value them.
2) We add value to others when we make ourselves more valuable.
3) We add value to others when we know and relate to what they value.
4) We add value to others when we do things that God values.
He states: "Believing in people before they have proved themselves is the key to motivating people to reach their potential".
He offers these four facts about having faith in others:
1) Most people don't have faith in themselves.
2) Most people don't have someone who has faith in them.
3) Most people can tell when someone else has faith in them.
4) Most people will do anything to live up to your faith in them.
Maxwell then offers some suggestions to how to become a better believer in people:
1) Believe in them before they succeed.
2) Emphasize their strengths.
3) List their past successes.
4) Instill confidence when they fail.
5) Experience some wins together.
6) Visualize their future success.
7) Expect a new level of living.
“I have learned to hold all things loosely, so God will not have to pry them out of my hands.”
- Corrie ten Boom
“I have held many things in my hands, and have lost them all; but whatever I have placed in God’s hands, that I still possess.”
- Martin Luther